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Emotional Intelligence

Are Your Friends Good For You?

It's hard to lose friends. It's even harder to lose friends due to a lack of emotional intelligence. We all know what it's like to be around someone who just doesn't get us. They say the wrong things, they don't understand our jokes, and they make us feel uncomfortable. We try to give them the benefit of the doubt, but sometimes, we just have to give up.

It's even harder when we lose friends because of a lack of emotional intelligence. We can't help but wonder what we could have done differently and how we could have been better friends. We beat ourselves up, wondering if we could have just been more understanding, more patient, and more loving. But the truth is, sometimes people just don't click. And that's okay. It's okay to walk away from a friendship that isn't working. It's okay to let go of someone who doesn't make you feel good about yourself. And it's definitely okay to give yourself some time to mourn the loss of a friend.

It's not always easy to be emotionally intelligent. But it's worth it because it can make all the difference in the world. And it is hard when a friend is not self-aware or in touch with their emotions, or when they can't understand ours. Many people are unaware of emotional intelligence and how they can improve how they act around others, or more specifically, how they control their emotions or use emotional intelligence in order to make better decisions.

Simply put, emotional intelligence is the ability to be aware and understand your own emotions and the emotions of others. People with high emotional intelligence know how to use their emotions effectively, and they also know how to control their emotions so that they don’t get in the way of logic and reason.

Some friends don’t understand the value of emotional intelligence, and as a result, they might not be as supportive as you need them to be during tough times. They might not know how to console you when you’re feeling down, or they might not know how to offer constructive criticism without making you feel bad about yourself. If your friends can’t seem to be emotionally intelligent around you, it might be time to find new friends who are more in tune with your needs.

It’s not easy to lose friends, but sometimes it’s necessary in order to find friends who are a better fit for you. If you’ve lost a friend due to a lack of emotional intelligence, know that it’s not your fault and that you’re not alone.

Some EQ tips include:

  • Try to see the situation from their perspective

  • Don't take things too personally

  • Try to be more understanding

  • Give them the benefit of the doubt

  • Communicate openly and honestly

  • Be patient and respectful of others

  • Seek professional help if needed

If these tips still don't work because the person is narcissistic, it might be hard for them to have any EQ because they are so focused on themselves. If this is the case, it is best to move on and find healthier relationships.


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